Beyoncé gave Vogue magazine the exclusive of a lifetime today. She revealed in the magazine’s pages and online that she gave birth to twins, Rumi and Sir, via emergency C-section.
I’m a former print reporter. I understand that’s the news of the article, but that’s not the point.
If you read between the lines, there are some crucial takeaways for new mothers – certainly words I need to hear from time to time.
1. Tune out any postpartum body shaming.
“After the birth of my first child, I believed in the things society said about how my body should look,” Beyoncé said to Vogue.
She went on to say that she went so far as to book a tour to make sure she loss all the baby weight in three months.
“Looking back, that was crazy,” she said.
Translation: Learn from my mistakes. Don’t hold yourself to crazy societal standards of beauty. The snapback is not that real.
2. There is nothing wrong with having a C-section.
“I was swollen from toxemia and had been on bed rest for over a month,” Beyoncé said to Vogue. “My health and my babies’ health were in danger, so I had an emergency C-section.”
Translation: A C-section was best for her health and that of her babies, so that’s the course she chose. That seems like decision-making worth modeling.
3. Be proud to have a strong support system.
Beyoncé called her husband a “soldier” in her article with Vogue. She gushed over him and his strength while she was in “survival mode.”
Translation: Relying on a support system does not make you weak. Celebrate their strength. Don’t internalize it as your weakness.
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4. You just had a baby. Learn to see your body as beautiful.
“During my recovery, I gave myself self-love and self-care, and I embraced being curvier,” Beyoncé said to Vogue. “I accepted what my body wanted to be.”
No translation needed. Do what she did.
5. You teach your children self-love by loving yourself.
Beyoncé explained that she was more patient with herself after giving birth to her twins than she was after the birth of her first child. She told Vogue she enjoys her curves, and so does her family. She also encouraged other women and men to see the beauty in their natural bodies and appreciate it.
“I have a little mommy pouch, and I’m in no rush to get rid of it,” she said. “I think it’s real.”